Experiences

'The supreme paradox of all thought is the attempt to discover something that thought cannot think' - Soren Kierkegaard Writing this piece is an exercise for me. I want so desperately to put into words how important Jeanette and her trainings are to me.... But I also know that if I sit down and want to, think about, construct and get bogged down in it... I will have to plod terribly and the narrative will not cover the load. The other option would be to ignore it: not write a piece. It won't work, I can't do it so I won't write it.... But no, I won't. Because I know the story I want to tell is there. I trust that if I feel, open and be there, the words will fall naturally. It will flow... So wait, don't think, trust. It will come, the words will flow... I don't have to make the sentences but create them. They arise. It takes no effort, no resistance... That is the attitude: looking at the world in openness, not wanting and rationalising anything. Just following what comes. Free! I put aside my enormous will and dump the bucket of assumptions and expectations. But I am also definitely not resigned or indifferent. I am there and with myself. Not only now, as I write this piece, but also later at the meeting, in the supermarket, when I will soon be cooking while 3 children hang on my skirt and also when I kiss my beloved tonight. I no longer push or pull the river, but let myself flow with it. Sometimes I decide to float in the roaring, raging, fast middle then again in the calm soft water close to the bank. I follow the infinite flow. And this attitude creates peace and love. Sometimes it is gentle, still, warm and then again it is bubbling, glowing, magical or dynamic. This I have literally and figuratively uncovered with Jeanette. And for this I am more than eternally grateful to her!

Through the sessions with Jeanette, I dare to trust and follow my own intuition & feelings. By being aware of (family) patterns that hindered me from being free, I have been able to transform them and live my life more, more independently and more openly. My relationships, both personal and business, are more equal and intense as a result. The special thing about Jeanette is that she is always herself, loving & relentless. She is a person who really lives herself and exemplifies what she teaches you. She challenges you to go just a little deeper, making true transformation actually possible. In one sentence: live, laugh and love!

I am happy to share a bit about my fine experiences with Jeanette and the positive effects on my private and work situation, which I still feel almost daily. 4 years ago, I was talking to a good friend about the fact that I was at a crossroads in my work and that I did not know which direction I wanted or could take. He advised me to have a talk with Jeanette. This ended up being a journey of discovery that is still ongoing. A journey of discovery in many ways. I am constantly learning about who I am, what I think about things and ultimately what is at the core of my being. This learning and knowing has resulted in greater self-knowledge and a more honest view of myself bringing me closer to what suits me in work and private life. At work, I am now in a situation that coincides much more than ever with my own orientation . Needless to say, this has also made me much happier. Looking back on the last few years, I accept and appreciate that I am constantly changing like everything around me. 4 years ago, this was a struggle now I see this as a beautiful experience. I feel more connected to my surroundings, have gained nicer contacts and treat myself with more compassion. Partly for this reason, I can really heartily recommend this to anyone planning to do 1 or more courses at Momocim. Moreover, and this was very important to me, the way you are guided is very honest. You will never have an opinion or idea forced upon you. Instead, you are given all the space you need to learn what you wish to learn at your own pace and to form your own view on things. Looking back; I am very grateful that I ever took the step to Momocim, with it came a wonderful unexpected turn in my life. I wish it for everyone.

I first came into contact with Jeanette over 10 years ago. Due to the problems within my relationship at that time, I decided to seek help for myself. Communicating was not my strongest point, and partly because of that, I had experienced problems more than once in my life. In short... time for help, and time to start working on myself. I then started the experience yourself training, followed in the same year by the introspection training. With these training sessions, I started on a new path for myself, in which I was more willing to look at myself, and certainly to seek help more quickly when I was "feeling down" or simply had a question for help. After these trainings, I visited Jeanette more often for a personal conversation. It often helped me get back on track, and I always came away with new energy. Last spring, I attended another 4-evening training ('met jezelf aan de praat'). The reason was that, as a self-employed person, I hadn't managed to be "successful" in recent years. I was in a negative spiral, and I couldn't get out of it for myself. I had been low on work for a long time, and had also been very tired for a long time. In short, time for training again. For me, this training was perhaps just as intense ( or perhaps even more intense ) as the previous trainings I had done. Here, the questions Jeanette asked me and the assignments I was given gave me quite a wake-up call. It gave me new insights in a short time, and above all a lot of peace and confidence. Business is now going well again. Again, I am very happy that I took this step, even though it was a bit tough during the training period. Why Jeanette? For me, she is able to fathom, mirror and touch you with her quality (gift), which can sometimes be very confronting, but ultimately the goal is to help you with your personal growth, and as far as I'm concerned, she has certainly succeeded so far.

From my conversations with Jeanette, I learned that it is important to listen to my gut and not just my mind. Jeanette made it very clear that my decision at the time to study law instead of psychology as a "wise choice for a lawyer's daughter" has always gnawed at me. In 1993, I took a postgraduate course in psychology but continued to pursue my old work despite my passion for it. I have now made the decision to let go of the hardcore legal profession and focus on what binds people rather than what separates them. Harmony instead of struggle. I have learned that letting go of old patterns is difficult but ultimately gives room for a new path. For me personally, this eventually led me to decide to stop fighting divorce proceedings and focus exclusively on mediations as a lawyer. That is more where my heart lies. I will continue to focus on counselling couples in crisis. A consultation with Jeanette is always surprising. Formulating questions in advance is pointless. Somehow, in no time at all, Jeanette touches a sensitive chord and takes you to a deeper layer. She helps you through your resistances and is unerringly able to find the pain points but also the way out. Jeanette takes the time for you, is loving and involved but very analytical and sharp. I highly recommend her!

My first experience with Jeanette was the Identity course and I knew it. In an extremely respectful way, Jeanette managed to penetrate and give me insight into my behaviour and from where my actions unfold. Actually, everything Jeanette does has to do with "consciousness" or as she often says herself: being conscious. The insights I have gained through the courses with Jeanette have helped me to realise how important unconditionality is in both business and private life. In addition, especially the awareness that believing in and acting from one's own strength is the most beautiful and efficient. This awareness has enabled me to grow very professionally and to offer others the opportunity to have the same beautiful experiences. The fact that we could then share this with each other created a real 1+1=3 effect and a wonderful development of all the people involved and the group as a whole. Jeanette taught me a lot on a spiritual level. As a slight "unbeliever" when it comes to things you can't see and which are supposedly there, she taught me that spirituality is not always woolly and can be very valuable in all relationships you enter into, especially with yourself. Like no other, she can hold up a mirror that is sharpened slightly differently, giving you other insights. She always does this from love and even though it can be very confronting and painful at times, she will always be there to help you.

Do you know the feeling? You are at the bottom of the ladder, you want to reach the top or you want to get rid of the ballast you are carrying but you don't know how. Jeanette ter Haar's five-day intensive Life Design takes you to that top. It's Boom! Hit! Wow! A lot of insight handed to you and gathered in a coherent set of consciousness research, family constellations and out-of-the-box assignments that take you out of your comfort zone. Jeanette manages to patiently, non-judgementally and knowingly open you up and make you aware of your own leadership power. When, after many insights and awareness, you have reached the top of the ladder and you finally get the enlightened view, you are relieved, happy and, above all, lighter. But you also see that all this time the ladder has been supported by your fellow travellers and Jeanette. An absolute enrichment for anyone who wants to make life's puzzle more complete. It frees you from the repetitive maze you have been moving in all this time. Above all, it makes it clear how important it is to have an eye for the whole and the evolution of life and to penetrate to the beautiful essence of your own being.

The entire van der Veen family separately attended the 'Identity' course as their first experience with Jeanette ter Haar. Below are the experiences of all the family members with Jeanette, in order of participation in that first course. Albert van der Veen (48 years old) The various training sessions with Jeanette that I have done over the past 15 years, alone and a number of times with family members, have brought me a lot.Continuously experiencing and letting go of convictions and fears have ensured that I experience more peace and confidence.The need to have to and comparing has become less. There is more clarity towards myself and others around me. In addition, the bond with my family has become stronger and more intense. Wonderful to be able to share these special experiences with people who are so close to you. The trainings were a gift to myself! Ilse van der Veen (46 years old)The sessions with Jeanette have given me the courage to trust my own intuition & feelings and to follow them. By being aware of (family) patterns that hindered me from being free, I was able to transform them and live my life more, more independently and more openly. My relationships, both personal and business, are more equal and intense as a result. The special thing about Jeanette is that she is always herself, loving & relentless. She is a person who really lives herself and exemplifies what she teaches you. She challenges you to go just a little deeper, making true transformation actually possible. In one sentence: live, laugh and love! Hans van der Veen (44 years)Over the past 14 years, I have followed several personal development courses with Jeanette, mostly in groups.Through her guidance, experiential assignments, her reflections and those of my course mates, I have become more aware of myself and my surroundings.I act less from my thinking and more from my intuition, the whole.I experience more attention, trust, freedom & intimacy. And I have become more intelligent. The bond with my father, mother, brother & sister is more independent & deeper. As if we have transcended family roles & patterns.The growing realisation that life is an unending journey gives me peace, colour & lets me celebrate life!Jeanette is light & earthy, witty & sharp. Jitty van der Veen (74 years)Years ago, me and my family each took the Identity course with Jeanette. I speak for myself when I say it was a very special experience. When one of the children took the course, she told me she had experienced that I did not show myself, showed few emotions and always wanted to maintain harmony in the family. I myself saw it differently. Eventually I became curious and took the course too. During the first day, I became aware that this was true. For instance, I did not know how my mother felt after my father's untimely death.She cried when she was alone in the scullery because she wanted to be brave. So my mother told me that she also had a very sweet hefty mother whom she had never seen cry after the death of 2 children.During and after the course, I became aware of how important it is for myself and others to show my feelings. Not only for myself but also for the people around me.Harry van der Veen (77 years)It was a special experience. All family members, inspired by the stories of those who had already been, went to the Identity course consecutively.Afterwards, everyone talked about their own experiences, including what came up in the parent-child relationship. This was sometimes confrontational because sometimes both or either of them were or were not aware of what has caused butts in the past and what in the Now sometimes still leaks energy. After this re- and acknowledgement back and forth, I was able to forgive myself and/or others. I experienced the self-reflection in this course as very enlightening, got to know myself better and adjusted my self-image as a result. Furthermore, I became strongly aware that people are very similar across age barriers and that I too find it difficult to simply say to others what I feel, think and want.

The various trainings with Jeanette that I have done over the past 10 years, alone and several times with family members, have brought me a lot. Continuously experiencing and letting go of beliefs and fears have made me experience more peace and confidence. The needing and comparing has become less. There is more clarity towards myself and others around me. In addition, the bond with my family has become stronger and more intense. Wonderful to be able to share these special experiences with people who are so close to you. The trainings were a gift to myself!

Grateful! That is what I experience now when I look back over the past 30 years. This is how I have been able to experience when I am in resistance, or living only from my head. Letting go of your judgements about yourself and accepting them was perhaps my biggest challenge so far. Self-acceptance! Are lol tricks for dealing with that. And then it seems like things are going well, but in reality you are still running away from it. With all its consequences! I took several courses and, through assignments, subconsciously accepted the challenge to experience and become aware of my resistances and blockages. What I experienced was that what you see with your eyes does not have to be reality. And so is make-believe reality. All these experiences have made me more confident. Better term, actually, is that it has brought me closer to myself. And where even before I didn't shy away from challenges, now I am there myself. And that makes life a lot happier and more sociable. Indeed, it has led to me having the courage to quit my job in crisis time and start my own business. The only thing I can add to that is "grateful" that I actually had the courage to keep going and took up the challenge with myself. The rest is not important, but it is nice.

Over the past 14 years, I have attended several personal development courses with Jeanette, mostly in groups. Through her guidance, experiential assignments, her reflections and those of my course mates, I have become more aware of myself and my surroundings. As a result, I act less from my thinking and more from my intuition, the whole. I experience more attention, trust, freedom & intimacy. And I have become more intelligent. The growing awareness that life is an endless journey gives me peace, colour and lets me celebrate life! Jeanette is light & earthy, witty & sharp.

Thank you for helping me grow ????. I am very grateful for all the wisdom I received from you. Our talks, exercises, yoga moments but also the cosiness in the cottage; I will never forget this. From the fear, turmoil and overwhelm, back to my own inner strength ????. Just a whole lot of love!